gender neutral

May 17, 2008

On Tuesday we had our week 20 baby appointment.  We were scheduled for a regular check up but we were also hoping to get a second peak at the baby.  I really did not anticipate a problem.  We talked to the baby the night before and told the baby that there would be no messing around this time if the doctor gave us another shot.  After the usual checkup, our doctor was kind enough to scoot us over to the ultrasound room to see what we could see.  She seemed determined to come up with an answer – boy or girl?  At first I was confident but that quickly faded when I heard the doctor mutter “come on damn baby!”  My thoughts exactly.  After a few attempts to get the right angle, she finally determined that the baby was crossing it’s legs – AGAIN!  We seem to have a very very stubborn baby on our hands.  

So, because the baby refuses to fully reveal itself, I have determined to embrace the secret and proceed with a completely gender neutral theme for the baby’s room.  This is not too big of a stretch since I was not planning princesses or race cars to begin with. I am using Melissa Sweet’s Life on Earth Canvas Wall art as inspiration for the room.  If you look at my earlier post about baby themes – it fits right in. 




UPDATE: I created a multi-store registry on Wishpot. If you sign up (it only takes a few seconds) you can see what has been purchased or reserved by others.

Okay so here is the super duper baby checklist. This is the same list that I am working off of so if there is anything that seems excessive just assume we plan on buying it ourselves. We have a registry at Babies R Us in the United States and online at Amazon. The registries may seem a little trim. This is because a lot of the stuff we picked out was found at other stores on the web. In these cases I have indicated where and provided a link to the page where I originally found the item. Here is a key to the short forms I used for the list:

AMAZON – Baby Registry at -Jaime Dalrymple

BRU-US = Baby Registry at Babies R Us in the United States – Jaime Dalrymple

BRU-CAN – Saw it at Babies R Us in Windsor, Ontario

Item – if item is crossed out this means we already have it

*** those places on the list but not in the key are online stores

***quantities are listed at the end of each item

Bedding/Nursery Furniture/Organization



crib sheets – 2 sets of 2 (BRU-US)

white quilted mattress protector – 2 (BRU-US)

receiving blankets – 1 set of four (BRU-US)

sleep positioner – 1 (BRU-US)

artwork -melissa sweet – life on earth canvas wall art (GENIUS BABY)

bugs bugs bugs mobile – 1 (AMAZON)


breast pump (BRU-US)

glass bottles – 2 sets of six (BRU-US)

highchair – fisher price healthy care booster seat (AMAZON, BRU-CAN, WALMART)

pacifiers – natural rubber – 4 (AMAZON)

bibs –  (DIY)

Health, Safety, Hygiene

baby tub

hooded towel and wash set

baby care set – safety first (BRU-US)

teether – sophie the giraffe (AMAZON, BRU-CAN)

baby monitor (BRU-US)


play pen – graco pack n play (BRU-US)

stroller/carseat combo – chicco cortina travel system – discovery (BRU-US)

diaper bag (Target)


wipes- seventh generation (BRU-US, AMAZON)

disposable diapers seventh generation – size one (BRU-US, AMAZON)


swing  (BABIES R US)


I have not listed specifics below but for an idea of the style of clothes we like see Zutano (there is a list of stores/online shops if you click the blue tabs at the bottom of the home page – you can see the outfits a little better on these sites). You can find similar (and quite frankly less expensive) clothes at other stores. We also like Carter’s clothes, which can be found at retailers throughout Canada and the United States. But really we are not picky and have no real preference for the clothes (especially since the little one refuses to let us know if it is a boy or a girl). It’s a GIRL!!! I have added a few items I found online to the Wishpot registry (and I also updarted the Babies R Us and Amazon lists).

0-3 mo

onesies (0-3mo)

sleepers (0-3mo) – 10

one piece outfits – sort sleeve (0-3mo) – 3

one piece outfits – long sleeve (0-3mo) – 5

sweaters/jackets (0-3mo) – 5

pants(0-3mo) – 5


onesies (3-6mo) – 10

sleepers (3-6mo) -10

one piece outfits – long sleeve (3-6mo) – 10

sweaters/jackets (3-6mo) – 5

pants (3-6mo) – 5


socks – 10

booties -10

hats – 5

winter gear

winter hats – 2

mittens – 2

winter suit – 1

It has been a very big week for us – but mostly for Dan. On Thursday morning Dan defended his dissertation (brilliantly). On Thursday afternoon we both received departmental awards for excellence in teaching (for the classes we taught last semester). On Friday night Dan graduated. I could not be more proud of him.

Dr. Pero Dagbovie (Dan’s advisor), Dr. Dan, Me (and baby)

stubborn baby

April 30, 2008

Yesterday at 2pm we had the much anticipated 18 week ultrasound (aka the “we get to find out the sex of the baby” appointment).  Needless to say we were incredibly excited.  We told everyone, I posted the upcoming event on facebook, talked endlessly to my friends and family about the upcoming event.

At 1 pm I drank the required 32 oz of water and steeled myself against the overwhelming urge to pee.  thirty five minutes later we arrived at the OBGYN office.   After 15 minutes of waiting we were wisked away to the u/s room by our friendly (but mumbling) u/s tech.  Within minutes I was gelled up and looking at our baby.  Seeing the fully formed baby for the first time was a total trip.  I really do have a tiny human being growing inside of me!  After 30 minutes of measurements, the search began. Is it a boy or a girl?  Turns out the baby decided to fall asleep with legs crossed and the cord tucked neatly in between.  After about 5 minutes of searching the search was called off – inconclusive.  I thought, couldn’t you just poke a little harder and get the baby to move?  I refrained from suggesting this hoping that with the internal u/s we would be able to catch a  glimpse.  No dice.  This little bean just refused t give it up!  The u/s tech did not want to venture a guess but I am willing to bet she had her suspicions from the earlier part of the test when the baby was not crossing it’s legs.  She did inform us that it is often harder to tell with girls than boys.  We are not putting too much stock in that hint.  

We left the office feeling happy that the baby seemed healthy but disappointed that we still did not know the sex.  We had everyone waiting on pins and needles and now we had to call everyone and let them know that we/they would have to wait a little longer.  Not finding out the sex of the bay also meant that the shopping trip we planned for that after noon might have to be put on hold.  We have been holding off on buying anything for the baby until we find out because so much of what is out there is incredibly gendered.  It is very difficult to find cute gender neutral baby outfits.  Still, we decided that the trip must go on  – we were determined to start shopping for this baby.  We decided to go to Walmart since we had not checked out their baby selection yet. I have to say that the selection was not a good as we were hoping.  We settled on two onesies that we felt were sufficiently gender neutral – one red and one green.  

After our truncated shopping trip we came home and poured over the u/s pics for a little while.  Most of them are a bit blurry.  I wish that our u/s tech was a little more patient with the pics and tried to get a few more profiles.  But there are two that are really cute.  Dan’s favorite is a picture where our sweet sleeping baby is making a surly face. I think the baby looks like it has claws i n that picture.  My favorite is a picture of the baby’s curled up hand.  You can even see the nail beds – precious!

cd baby

April 29, 2008

Lately I have been reading cookie magazine.  I really enjoy their music section.  After looking a few of their selections up on itunes, I was amazed the number of cool kids albums. Here are a few of my favorites.  You can preview them on Amazon using the links below.

Lisa Loeb and Elizabeth Mitchell, Catch the Moon
Elizabeth Mitchell, You are My Sunshine
Various Artistis, The Bottle Let Me Down
Various Artists, For the Kids 
Various Artists, For the Kids Too
Various Artists, For the Kids Three
Dan Zanes, Nightime
Frances England, Facinating Creatures 
Rene and Jeremy, It’s a Big World 


April 24, 2008

I have been incredibly touched by how generous people have been in volunteering to give us stuff for the baby.  It started with the a crib donation from Dan’s boss.  We haven’t seen it but we know that it is white and that is good enough for me.  In the last week I have been offered a pile of nice maternity clothes from my best friend’s stepsister and our pick of baby stuff from a fellow graduate student who is moving to Germany for a year. I am so grateful for their offers to help.

Being in graduate school has been a financial strain and we have become increasingly worried about how we are going to afford all of the baby stuff.  Of course our mom’s will pitch in quite a bit and I will inevitably receive a good amount of stuff from the baby showers; but there is still so much to buy.  I plan on accepting any offers for help.

When I was dreaming of having a baby I always wanted to buy new and buy specific products.  I have become a lot more realistic.  The change in my thinking is in part due to my recent interest in reuse, recycle, refurbish etc… and my desire to cut down on consumption and simplify the amount of stuff we collect and bring into our home.  Why should go out and buy something new when there are people willing to give us perfectly safe and clean products that they do not need anymore?  It just does not make sense to accumulate all of this new stuff, use it for a few years (or a few months in some cases) and then let it collect dust in out home or end up in a landfill somewhere.  

We will be buying some stuff new – things we really want/like or can’t get elsewhere.  But we will not be passing up too many donations.  We can put the money into decorating the baby’s room and buying the (slightly more expensive) green products that are important to us.  and of course all of those savings will also help us pay own for a new apartment, which we desperately need.  

on order (soon)

April 21, 2008

I have decided on two of the quilt designs for the little bean.  One is the collaborative quilt design and the other is one I will make after the baby is born (because the pattern is not available until then).  I was searching the internet for collaborative quilt designs when I came across pattern bee.  There are some really cute embroidery patterns that I think will be perfect for a small baby quilt.  I am thinking of having the girls use fabric paint rather than embroidery thread because it will be faster and everyone will be able to do it relatively quickly.  Here are some of the patterns that I really love.  

The second quilt that I am dead set on making is Denise Schmidt’s “Single Girl” using her Katie Jump Rope Fabric. I think the whole starter set costs 114.00, which is a but steep but totally worth it.  I also think that  because I am doing a smaller quilt I will have lots of fabric left over for other projects. I have to get a pre-order because I am pretty sure that they will go fast once people start talking about it.  Here is the pattern and a pic of the fabric (that I found at purl soho).